Watch What You Write: This page is devoted to defending the English language and encouraging disciplined writing. Our regular contributor will be Adrianne LeMan who will seize on sloppy writing and firmly remind us of the need to write correctly. However, we welcome other contributors. Just send your piece or any comments on what we have published to

Adrianne LeMan

I received an email the other day asking me if I’d like to meet “my daughter and I” for coffee. I couldn’t, unfortunately, but that wasn’t because the email should have read “my daughter and me”. (I am extremely fond of the sender, and her daughter!)

Using “I” instead of “me” is a common mistake caused, I imagine, by trying not to be ungrammatical. While you wouldn’t write, “My daughter and me accept your invitation”, after the event, you should write, “Thank you for inviting my daughter and me”. When in doubt, think the sentence through – my daughter accepts your invitation, I accept your invitation, thank you for inviting my daughter, thank you for inviting me – and you’ll always get it right.

Adrianne LeMan ran a UK company for many years with a team that wrote and edited annual reports, websites, brochures, etc, for a wide range of major companies. She now works as a freelance writer/editor – again assisting major companies. She is interested in words: their use, and misuse, the way they are spelled and the way they look. Adrianne also keeps a close eye on the use, and misuse, of language, which she feels should be clear and to the point.

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